James 1:19‭-‬20 ESV
Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.
Hello blessed child of God, I hope you’ve had an awesome week thanks to God. As for me, I’ve had a wonderful week thanks to The Lord Jesus Christ and I’ve had so much fun.
Can I say that today is a great day to learn how to manage anger?
These days I’ve been learning to break the chains of anger and unforgiveness in my life, and God has inspired me with a list of 3 things which I’m sure you’ll like to try out next time you’re angry.
James 1:19‭-‬20 ESV

Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.

1. Sing Praises To God

Psalms 22:3 TPT

Yet I know that you are most Holy; it’s indisputable. You are God-Enthroned, surrounded with songs, living among the shouts of praise of Your princely people.

You know when we say that “Praise breaks chains”? It’s real.
Have you ever tried to be angry at someone while you’re praising God? I think this is virtually impossible.
I’ve figured out that no matter how angry I am, the moment I start playing Worship Music on my playlist and that I sing along, and focus on God, all the little things which seemed to make me angry vanish away and feel insignificant.
Try it out. When you feel angry, instead of yelling at your husband or your children, instead of breaking things in your house, instead of throwing your cellphone on the ground, instead of beating yourself up or mutilating yourself, instead of kicking or punching someone, run to your room, or run to a place where you’ll be alone and start singing praises to God, start worshiping Him.
Before you realize it, your soul, your mind, your perspective will be completely shifted from what you were thinking to God. When you choose to praise God in such moments, you are inviting His presence in your situation.

2. Make A List: Why Am I Angry?

Proverbs 4:23‭ MSG

Keep vigilant watch over your heart; that’s where life starts.

Once you’ve cleared your mind and guarded your heart by worshiping God, you can now make a list of what makes you angry.
Take a paper and a pen, you can even have a dairy just for this. Make a list of what makes you angry.
I’ve tried this out, and to be honest, I realized that worshipping God makes me see myself more clearly. As such, when I’m making this list of why I’m angry, it’s easier for me to find the real reason behind my anger because The Holy Spirit Himself is acting and has already been invited in my situation through my worship.
Asking Him to give you the real reason for your anger will definitely help.
You may find out that if you’re really angry it’s not because your husband didn’t buy everything on the groceries list, but because you don’t love yourself.
You may come to discover that if you’re really angry it’s not because your friends don’t pay enough attention to you, but because you feel inadequate and unworthy.
You may find out that if you’re hurting your wife it’s not because she doesn’t love you, it’s because you don’t love yourself.
When you don’t know the real reason behind your anger, you push it on everyone and you become irritated by everything. However, when God Himself points out to you what’s wrong, it’s easier to pray about it and to solve it.

3. Pray About It

Hebrews 4:16 ESV

Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.

Now that you’ve finished singing praises to God and worshipping Him despite your anger, now that The Holy Spirit has spoken to your heart, now that you know what really pisses you off, you can pray about it.
You can pray about you feeling miserable, unloved, inadequate etc. You can pray about everything, you can take it all to God.
You’ve probably figured it out already, this list doesn’t only work for anger but for everything you’re chained to.
You can follow the principles of this list to stop yourself from doing something stupid, like punching someone in the face because you’re jealous, or taking alcohol or drugs to relieve your stress. You can use this list anytime you need a perspective change.

  • Sing Praises to God, Worship Him
  • Make a list of why you feel this way/why you want to do x,y thing
  • Pray about it

If it works with my anger, it can work with your addiction, your pain, your sadness, your depression, your Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, your abusive behaviour etc.
Actually it is a form of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, a type of therapy which trains you to change your response to a certain stimulus and to respond in a specific way.
This way, when you’ll be tempted to insult someone, you’ll instead turn to God to praise Him, to let Him tell you why you feel this way, and to pray about it.
You can break the cycle of unforgiveness, addiction, porn, masturbation, abuse, theft, depression, extramarital sex, mythomania etc. if you choose to respond to temptation not by giving in to it but by rushing to God’s throne of grace.
Try it out.


Father Lord God Almighty, when I am tempted to run back to anger (or addiction/abuse/violence/hatred/unforgiveness/masturbation/porn/gossipping etc.) help me instead turn to You to praise You, to worship You, to adore You. May Your Holy Spirit open my heart so that I know the root behind my feelings and behaviour, and may I never lose hope as I pray about the real issue behind my condition, in Jesus Christ’s Name. Amen.

It’s Now Your Turn

Have you tried this list ? Please do so. Challenge yourself this week as you use this list to break chains and incorrect patterns in your life.
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God bless you
Victoria Eyog


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